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I met with Deborah Dilman yesterday for a consultation. I have been the survivor of severe, over a decade-long, ongoing domestic violence, and I have sought help for years in FL without receiving any. I have a fake tooth due to being assaulted by my ex-husband while I was in the shower trying to wash my hair. He didn't like me to wash my hair when it was inconvenient for him. So, when I finally just decided to wash my hair when I wanted to (and not to get his approval first), he literally beat me relentlessly over my head and face while I was just standing there in the shower begging him to stop. That is unfortunately only one of countless incidents that occurred for over 10 years, and it still hasn't stopped yet.

I came to NC to follow court orders to the best of my ability (while at the same time trying to escape a terrifying and devastating domestic violence situation). Unfortunately, on several occasions during my consult, Deborah focused on the few ways that I was "not following the court order", and she even went so far as to say that she thought that my ex-husband and I were both "doing a bad job." I have sadly been in the position to literally have to put myself between my ex-husband and my children to protect my children from him. I have been beaten and attacked numerous times, and when I reached out to the police and DCF, they ignored me and my children. I suppose it's easier to believe that the nice, well-dressed, professuonal, college-educated, calm, polite, middle-class white guy than it is to believe the hysterical, traumatized, beaten, shaking woman of color (nevermind the fact that she has far more education than the perpetrator does).

I do believe that Deborah sincerely meant well, but as a survivor of longterm, ongoing domestic violence (and even more so as a woman of color), I face challenges in this life that she can't imagine. And, to repeatedly suggest that I "talk things out" with a man who was willing to beat me so savagely (and who was able to get away with it with impunity) is naive at best and a bit insulting at worst. Nearly everything she suggested, I already tried. My ex-husband is relentlessly cruel and abusive, and trying to reason with someone like that is fruitless (and, if it goes on for too long, it is also ultimately devastating and maddening). You don't reason with a person like that. You can't. It makes me wonder how many of Tedd Bundys victims were able to reason with him.

Theresa is nothing short of an angel. Not only does she have true mastery and a wealth of knowledge when it comes to family law, but she and her team possess caring, compassionate hearts as they always listen to everyone who is in need of their services. If you or a loved one is looking for legal counsel, Modern Legal is the number one place to go when family and the law collide.

I have known Theresa for a number of years. She is a true advocate for anyone who needs help. She is extremely knowledgeable, helpful, and easy to work with. She navigated me through some very tricky and sensitive family issues. HIGHLY recommend for any legal needs for your family!

Theresa! She is an exceptional lawyer who truly cares about my case and worked tirelessly to achieve the best possible outcome. She took the time to listen to my concerns and provided me with clear and concise advice, explaining the legal process every step of the way. With her teams hard work and dedication, I was able to achieve a positive outcome in my case.

Theresa is so passionate about what she does. She has built a firm where clients' needs and experiences are top priority. That comes from a place of deep concern and care for her clients, and is supported by her excellent experience and knowledge. Highly recommend.

I have known Theresa for some years now, and she has a reputation for being a true professional and wonderful advocate for her clients. Her work product is admirable. I consistently recommend people to use her because of the fantastic work she does in family law. She has certainly earned the respect of other attorneys and judges in the community.

Megan is a caring and compassionate attorney. She is very professional and empathetic. I appreciate communication and transparency, especially around complicated issues that have long lasting impacts. She always responds to emails quickly. It is great to have someone like Megan on your side!

Compassionate, caring, person centered and super efficient support. What could have been a very difficult situation Theresa handled with a very calm
sense of urgency allowing me to feel at peace and confident with my decision to move forward with my legal separation. She is highly trust worthy and always had my best interest in mind even when I did not. I am forever grateful for the support she provided me when I needed it most. You will not find anyone better for family law matters. Thank you Theresa for everything!!!

Theresa and Carrie helped me through a multi-year very contentious divorce and I would highly recommend their service. Theresa is very familiar with the legal system and thoughtful in providing guidance on how to achieve the best outcome. In the courtroom she’s well prepared, knows how the system works, and garners the respect of others – everything you need from someone advocating on your behalf. Carrie does a masterful job in keeping the process moving and ensuring your case is well prepared. As a team they work great together and you’ll be well represented.

I first met Theresa and Carrie at another law firm where they handled my difficult divorce. They were nothing but professional but beyond that they both made me feel that they truly cared for me and my daughter's outcome in the case. I felt not only fairly represented but also wisely protected by these amazing women. I never questioned their recommendations and they always provided fast and responsive service. Even years after my divorce I am able to reach out to them via email or phone to discuss my case and I know they truly care. I am so excited about their new venture!